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What got you into this business and what keeps you going?
My start in sex blogging and reviewing began when my husband and I innocently decided to purchase some sex toys together. Neither of us owned any when we started dating, so it was new ground for both of us. We started shopping on a site that provided points in exchange for various actions performed, writing reviews included. Those points could be used toward purchases, and being the bargain hunter I am, I was hooked.
Overtime it developed into so much more. I realized that my little hobby was actually helping people. I was receiving messages asking for my product suggestions, people thanking me for the reviews I was writing, and sharing with me how their sex life changed because of information I provided. Knowing I was helping others became my drive. Whether it was steering them away from useless products or encouraging them to feel sexually confident, I was helping. That eventually evolved into creating my own blog and is one of the biggest things that keep me going.
Your content is very open and honest, is this how you started or did this evolve over time as your audience grew?
My first reviews were extremely vague. Before starting this journey I was never a sexually open person. It's really quite amazing the transformation I've seen within myself. I used to feel like sex was supposed to be private, something to speak of in hushed tones if discussed at all. Overtime I realized how silly that was. It took (and still does sometimes) a while to figure out the best way to word things without offending anyone, but my honesty is something that comes naturally now. It didn't have anything to do with my audience, but came with self discovery. The more I learned about myself and the more I shared what I discovered, the easier it became to share everything.
What has been the best and hardest part of your journey?
The best part of this journey (so far) has been a really selfish one for me. Being the mother of three kids means a lot of my time is spent catering to the needs of everyone else. My needs are often forgotten in the mix of doing laundry, making dinner, helping with homework, and tying shoes. For years I felt like my body only wanted and responded to certain things, and it was frustrating. I never took the time to really touch my body; to discover different sensations and ways of being pleasured. Having my blog kind of forces me to take that time for myself, time I otherwise would (and have) set aside to make sure something else was taken care of first. This has opened up a whole new world to me. It's changed my sex life, has made me a better partner, and in turn has helped others through my blog. It's really been an amazing experience so far.
If I'm being completely honest, the hardest part of this journey has been figuring out how to balance my voice. I'm very honest, but I'm not a fighter. I try to avoid conflict whenever possible, but I'm also a very emotionally passionate person. There are many sensitive subjects I wish I could touch on, but the fear of my words being twisted really holds me back. My intention wasn't to have a sex toy review website, I wanted my reviews to cover only a section of a sexuality based website. Gaining the confidence to push forward with that has been a major struggle, and is one I hope to overcome as time goes on.
Since starting the site, have other opportunities opened up for you?
I feel like I've reached a bit of a plateau. 2014 was a difficult year for my family, and I wasn't able to invest the time and energy I wanted into my blog, let alone further projects. Small opportunities opened up, but I wasn't able to reach out and take advantage of them. I have a feeling 2015 will be a very different year for us, and for my blog - so hopefully something new and exciting will come my way.
What exciting news or changes are in store for 2015?
2015 is about as big of a mystery to me as it is to everyone else! I have a lot of projects and ideas lined up, but nothing is set in stone. I'm going to take this year as it comes and avoid stress as much as possible. New year, new start, it's time to let go and take things as they come.
Popsy is a sex positive toy reviewer with a passion for helping others. Her mission is to get personal, share erotic images, and encourage body acceptance. You can find her at Property of Potter - go check her out. You'll be glad you did!