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Dildo vs. Vibrator : Which Should I Buy?

This is a question we get asked a lot here at Betty’s from first time buyers. Of course, I would love to tell you all BOTH!!! But, I know about budget constraints and you know your body best, so let’s take a look at what each can do for you and you can make your own decision.

Clitoral Stimulation

If you are somebody who has a difficult time climaxing with penetrative sex or through manual stimulation, a vibrator which targets the clitoris is going to help you achieve climax much quicker and easier. There are lots of bullet vibes like the ultra-powerful We-Vibe Tango. This vibe can be used solo or with a partner because it is small enough to fit between you and powerful enough for you both to feel the powerful rumble. You can see it in action as part of the Pleasure Mates kit in our VIDEO REVIEW - FOUND HERE.
The newer generations of clitoral stimulators have used new technology to create clitoral stimulators like we have never seen before and to give sensations that can't be replicated in any other way. The Womanizer brand uses air pulsing technology on the clitoris for some mind-blowing stimulation, while Zumio X and the Zumio S use pinpoint circular motions that are staggering in their intensity. 
Don't rule out dildos when you're thinking about the clitoris though, because many of them have a vibration option that you can use against the clitoris as well. These are great if you have a super sensitive clitoris and prefer softer materials touching it. While vibrating dildos tend not to be as powerful as traditional vibrators, products like Fuze Dildos let you put in your own bullet, so you can really get the most bang for your buck. You can check out our video reviews of the Fuze Foreman Uncut Vibrating Dildo HERE.

G-Spot Stimulation

There are A LOT of g-spot targeting vibrators out there for every budget. If you haven’t found your g-spot yet, the firmness of a vibrator may help get you find your target. G-spot vibrators curve upwards at the end to reach that bundle of nerves at the top wall of your vagina halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix. A vibrator like the Gigi by Lelo may seem small but it is precisely designed with that bulbous tip and flat head to stimulate your g-spot, while the Aria Hue by Blush Novelties is a great beginner g-spot seeking toy. 

Vibrators aren't the only game in town when it comes to the g-spot. There are many g-spot dildos with the same kind of curve and pronounced head. In fact, some folks prefer the soft exterior of a good silicone dildo like the Real Nude Rollo against the g-spot more than vibration. If you still want that firm touch, there are glass, and metal dildos that not only have that pinpoint g-spot accuracy but also allow you to experiment with temperature play by heating or cooling them before using. Many sex toy experts who love firm g-spot stimulation swear by the NJoy Pure Wand with its sexy stainless steel material and weighty presence

 

 

Anal and Prostate Play

We hear from more and more folks about their desire to explore anal play. Many folks jump straight to the idea of a dildo for anal play and there are some really wonderful ones like the Please Sir Anal Dildo  which is harness compatible and small enough for the beginner. The rules for anal play are simple: always use something with a flared base and stick to non-porous materials like silicone, metal, glass or ABS plastic. The Spur by Vixen Creations is our dream anal dildo for its average size, gorgeous silicone, and that bulbous head which feels great against the prostate.

Vibrators can be surprisingly wonderful for anal play as well. That same vibration that thrills the g-spot can do wonders for the prostate. The Performance Pro Stimular is a prime example a great beginner vibrator for anal stimulation. 

 

 

 

Partner Play

 

Vibrators seem like a natural fit for partner play because they can provide that much needed extra clitoral stimulation that you just can't get from penetrative sex. Dame Products revolutionized couple's play and their Eva II Wearable Clitoral Vibrator which has flexible wings that keep it snug against the clitoris during penetration. Wands can also add some fantastic elements to your play and a remote control wand like the Sola Sync Remote Controlled Wand fits every curve while allowing for some erotic teasing through the discreet remote control. 

 

 

You may not think of dildos immediately when you consider partner play but they can bring so many elements to the bedroom. A squirting dildo like the POP Semenette allows for fantasy roleplay, a hollow dildo and harness set like the Everlaster by Sportsheets can revive the intimacy for couples suffering from Erectile Dysfunction. A colorful fun dildo like Avant Summer Fling D3 can allow you to go all night without losing steam, while the King Cock Uncut 9 Inch Dildo with Moving Foreskin can maybe allow you to experience something new.