I am always amazed what a taboo anal sex seems to be among so many women. The common reason seems to be that since we have vaginas, we don’t need to put anything “back there.” If you’re one of those people, this guide won’t be for you but come on, I know some of you are curious. After all, how can there be so many toys, devices, and even special lubricants if somebody somewhere wasn’t enjoying it a whole lot. So, if you’ve been thinking about trying it out, here’s what you need to know to get started.

Get yourself a really great lube

No matter if you’re using toys or having partnered anal sex, you can’t do anything without a really great lube. There are lubes that are specially formulated to be thicker and to coat the skin more so that you can just focus on enjoyment. We here at Betty’s love Sliquid Sassy Booty Lube which is a water based and water soluble anal lube created to ease the way. 

Relax – or better yet, be really horny

There’s no use trying anything anal unless you’re super relaxed and super into it. Those are some tight muscles you’re dealing with and it will be uncomfortable unless you can let yourself go and enjoy the experience. Why not start with a sexy massage. Break out that Magic Wand Unplugged Rechargeable Massager and get yourself tingly from head to toe!

Start out with a small anal toy

You don’t have to go for the whole enchilada (ahem) right off the bat. There are so many lovely, small butt plugs or anal dildos out there that will be smaller than an average penis and easier to get used to. Try a small butt plug to get used to the idea but please please please make sure you use something specifically designed for anal play with a flanged base, which will keep the rectum from dragging it in and keeping it there (nothing like a trip to the ER to kill the mood). We recommend something like Luxe Candy Rimmer Small Butt Plug which has a handy ring at the end to help it glide in and out

Use a condom

Even if you don’t use one for vaginal sex, you should use one for anal. We’re dealing with an area that is full of bacteria – even if you douche - and you don’t want your partner to end up with a urinary tract infection as a reminder of your adventures. Also, if you want to switch from anal to vaginal, you absolutely can as long as you switch to a new condom. It also makes the clean-up slightly more pleasant to say the least.

You can pick up Kimono Microthin Condoms here at Betty’s so that you’re all ready to go when the time is right.

Go slow

There can be some mild discomfort when you start but never, ever should it be painful. If it is, stop and prep some more or maybe just move on to something else for the time being. If you think you’ve used enough lube, you probably haven’t. A great slim starter toy is the Sedeux Please Slim Anal Dildo. This is also flared at the base, which is a MUST HAVE for any anal toy but that shape also makes it harness compatible for pegging play!

Materials Matter – A LOT

If you’re going to forego the condom, then make sure your anal toys are non-porous materials that can be thoroughly cleaned. That means silicone, glass, or metal. The Power Gem Vibrating Silicone Crystal Butt Plug is a lot of fun for anybody and is easy to clean with a bleach/water solution to get rid of bacteria. It also has a great vibration, if you want to add some extra excitement to the mix. 

If you think you would like to start small and work your way up, you can always pick up a set of graduated plugs that will help you explore. These Luxe Beginner 3 Plug Anal Trainer have a very slim tip so they are easy to insert, but they hold in place really well if you want to keep them in during vaginal intercourse.