Lay back, relax, and open your minds, because we are going on a journey to the g-spot. We are not telling “your man” how to find it and we are certainly not doubting its existence as so many articles do. This article is all about helping those of you who are curious to explore and hopefully have some great orgasms. And if you don’t? Well studies show that up to 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, so don’t worry yourselves. Let’s just go exploring with no pressure or expectations and see what happens, ok?
WHAT IS THE G-SPOT?
The g-spot is a short-form for the Gräfenberg spot, named for the gynecologist who first made the discovery. It is in an area called the urethral sponge which can be sexually responsive. It is a bundle of nerves located about 1-3 inches into your vagina along the inner wall (out towards your belly button) – about halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix.
WHAT DOES THE G-SPOT FEEL LIKE?
Many women say it feels a bit rough, bumpy, or ridged, like the surface of a walnut. Others say pressing on it feels like pressing on the tip of your nose. It should be about 1 inch in diameter and will feel rougher than the rest of your vaginal wall. If you are turned on when you are searching, it may be easier to find, since it can become larger with arousal.
THE BEST WAY TO FIND THE G-SPOT
I am going to recommend that your first quest for the g-spot be a solo mission. If you can find it on your own, then you can direct a partner to get in on the action later. It is also very important to already be aroused when you start to explore because this will engorge your g-spot and make it easier to find.
When you’re ready, lay on your back and plant your feet with your knees up. Use two fingers and insert them into your vagina palm up. This will allow you to crook your fingers towards your belly button in a come-hither motion that seems to be quite effective in g-spot searching.
HOW WILL I KNOW IF I’VE FOUND IT?
If you’re having trouble finding the right spot with your fingers, or can’t identify an area that feels different to the touch, don’t get frustrated. The g-spot responds well to firm, steady pressure so you may want to reach for a toy. Some women like vibration, some don’t but maybe start with a g-spot curved vibrator turned off and see where it gets you first before adding vibration.
Here are two toys at different ends of the price spectrum that are specifically designed for g-spot stimulation. Key Comet 2 Rechargeable G-spot Wand By Jopen is pricey but absolutely stunning. It is powerful and has a great bulbous g-spot shape. The Comet is great for the g-spot connoisseur while the Tulip First Time G-Spot Vibrator is a more moderately priced alternative that is firm for constant pressure and stimulation.
Many women describe g-spot stimulation as feeling the need to pee and this stops them from going any further. This is because you’re stimulating an area that is part of the urethral sponge. All the better reason to explore alone at first and empty your bladder before starting out. If you are uncomfortable with the feeling, you are going to clench your PC muscles (the ones you clench to stop from peeing) and that is the exact opposite of what you’re looking for. Ride the feeling, and keep applying firm pressure to the spot that feels the best. Put a towel under you if you’re worried and just see what happens.
IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED…
Try try again. Or don’t. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU if you can’t climax through g-spot stimulation. Not every women likes the feel of having her g-spot stimulated and not every woman is sexually responsive in that way. All orgasms are great, no matter how you have them.
If you do want to try again, stay tuned for an upcoming article on our favorite g-spot toys here at Betty’s.