Choosing Your First Vibrator When You’re Over 40
Vibrators have become mainstream with young women today, but for those of us in our forties and beyond, for most of our lives, they were still a taboo topic and sold only in seedier stores that we were embarrassed to enter.
We can thank the ladies from Sex and the City for opening a healthy dialogue about sex toys and shows like Grace and Frankie for driving home the idea that women want and deserve orgasms, no matter their age.
If you have never used a vibrator, I am going to walk you through some of the more common types that I recommend depending on your wants and needs. Start with what you think appeals to you and then branch out. After all, vibrators are fun as well as completely healthy and normal.
Benefits:
- Powerful direct clitoral stimulation
- Rechargeable, powerful, plastic with a silicone gripmakes it easy to clean
- Strong clitoral orgasms for those who don’t want an insertable toy due to vaginal discomfort
- Great to fit between two bodies
Drawbacks:
- It is small and sleek so if you have mobility issues with your hands, this is probably not the vibrator for you
The Magic Wand Original or the Magic Wand Rechargeable
Benefits:
- Very powerful, which is great if you have trouble reaching orgasm
- External only so it’s great for those with vaginal discomfort
- The plug-in version means you don’t have to worry about recharging or changing batteries
- The rechargeable version means you aren't stuck near a plug to keep the fun going
- Easy to hold and keep in place. Easy on your wrists because you don’t have to move it much
Drawbacks:
- If you are extremely sensitive, this may be too strong for you
- You are limited to where the cord can reach with the Original
- The Rechargeable is heavier so if you have grip issues, you may want the lighter Original
- Not waterproof
- The power of the vibrations can make your hands tingly after a while
Hop Lola Bunny Rabbit Vibrator by Blush Novelties
Benefits:
- Gives you clitoral and vaginal stimulation at the same time
- You can control the speeds and rotations to customize your experience
- More stimulation means greater chance of achieving orgasm for those with difficulties
- Easy to control buttons on the handle for ease of use
Drawbacks:
- An insertable toy may not be best if you have vaginal discomfort
- Rabbits don’t necessarily fit every woman’s anatomy due to differences in size and shape.
First Time Tulip G-Spot Vibrator
Benefits:
- Custom designed for seeking out your g-spot
- Very narrow arm and tip is great if you have vaginal tightness
- Easy to control with simple dial at the base for on/off and speeds
- You can also use it as an external clitoral vibrator
- Budget friendly
Drawbacks:
- The hard plastic is totally rigid and inflexible
