Why are so few people talking about menopause and sex? After all, menopause is something that everybody who has ever had a period is going to experience at some point in their lives. It can have very real and significant effects on relationships, body image, and overall health, all of which will impact your sex life. So, what’s with the silence?
At Betty’s we aim to change that with conversation about how to have a happy and healthy sex life during and after menopause. Here are some of our recommendations on how to work around, work with, and accommodate some of the challenges faced during menopause and find pleasure.
VAGINAL DRYNESS – DISCOMFORT WITH PENETRATION
These two symptoms are often caused by decreased estrogen production and lessened blood flow in the vagina. They are incredibly common. A couple of things to try
LOSS OF SENSITIVITY – TROUBLE REACHING ORGASM
Maybe you have always been easily orgasmic and now it’s a struggle, or maybe what used to work doesn’t do the trick anymore. This is incredibly common, so be kind to your body and know you’re not alone. Here are some tips you can try
JOINT STIFFNESS OR SORENESS
It is incredibly frustrating when you can’t get into a position you enjoy or maintain it for long enough to find pleasure. Sore hands can really hamper your ability to masturbate manually and hold a vibrator. Some things you can try:
URINARY INCONTINENCE – PEEING WHEN YOU SNEEZE
Not specific to menopause, leaking or peeing becomes more common as we age, and our pelvic floors lose strength. If you are noticing it happening more frequently, speak to your doctor and you can try some of these tips at home
- Practice doing Kegel exercises which strengthen your pelvic floor and help keep with leakage. As an added bonus, Kegel exercises keep that blood flowing in the vaginal walls, keeping them more supple and healthy. (Betty Recommends Wellness Kegel Ball Training Kit for Pelvic Floor Health)
- Vaginal wipes are wonderful for keeping fresh and clean when leaks do occur. Look for wipes that are pH balanced and gentle. (Betty Recommends Dame Aloe Infused Intimate Body Wipes
DECREASED LIBIDO – NOT WANTING SEX
It is understandable that changes in our bodies can bring changes in our libidos and if you are experiencing menopausal symptoms, it can be incredibly difficult to get ‘in the mood.’ We always recommend you speak to your doctor about how you are feeling, and, in the meantime, you can try some of these helpful tips.