Pegging 101: A Video Tutorial with Tawney

Interested in pegging with your partner but don't know where to start? Join sexpert Tawney as she walks you through how to peg like a pro so you both get maximum enjoyment (and orgasms!)

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Video Transcript:

Hey everybody, it’s Tawney Seren here with Naughty Betty's, and today we're going to talk about pegging.

So if you're unfamiliar with pegging, allow me to introduce you to where the female partner will put on a strap-on and then penetrate their partner anally. Now normally this is in regards to those who are born with a vagina and those who are assigned male at birth for that sort of pairing. But really anyone can peg, anyone. It's the idea that you do not have a penis for penetration, so you are giving yourself one.

Now any strap-on will really do, but it's important to understand the process of pegging and training as a whole, so that you can give it to your partner safely and so it's pleasurable for both of you. Now why do people do it?

Hey, well first of all, men have a P-spot. This prostate zone can be incredibly incredibly enticing to play with, and some have reported having up to a 33.3% more powerful orgasm with prostate play. So it doesn't have anything to do with your sexual orientation: this has everything to do with pleasure, and if you are in a open-minded relationship, certainly do not hesitate to kind of, you know, mention your needs, and have that conversation with your partner.

Now some strap ons also can come with avibrating end or dildos that vibrate, so that both parties can get pleasure from this. This is not just a dominant-submissive sort of act; this is something that a lot of people truly do enjoy and can bring into the bedroom. But again, this is not something that a lot of people just kind of do organically, so training, and, you know, ensuring that you are clean, prepared, and safe for this is very very very important.

Now I'm going to tell you a bit about how to kind of get into it, how to ease into it, how to peg safely, and then I'm going to show you my favorite pegging pair of panties and where you can get them. They're amazing!

So, um, first of all make sure to prepare. So whether that means you are douching, you're getting, you know, an enema; whether you're cleaning out that extra little bit of poop that might be in there. Now it's just as easy … you can also stick a finger up there. Now, I mean, if you've had a recent larger bowel movement, then oftentimes you don't have to worry about that. But if it makes you feel more comfortable, I highly recommend doing an enema, just kind of cleaning things out ahead of time. Foreplay -- especially if you get in your head about that a lot -- it's nice to kind of eliminate that worry.

Now the same goes with the toys. Make sure those toys are incredibly clean. You don't want to be putting something anywhere that isn't considered body safe, so finding a good silicone dildo and a really nice harness or a pair of panties that can accommodate a dildo would be very important. So make sure that you wash those.

And another part of being prepared is lube. Lube, lots of lube! So make sure that you're using a lube that is safe for your toy. If you're using a silicone toy, make sure to use water-based lubrication. Understand, water-based is not as thick as silicone, so you might need to apply more during play.

I also recommend using a bit of an anal relaxant gel. So if you, if you're familiar with those, you know, certainly try a little bit of that, whatever you need to ease it. Now if you are just beginning and you haven't done this a lot, I recommend starting with fingers or a rim job. This is also a great way to introduce this to your partner if you haven't brought up the idea of pegging.

Introducing anal play in general should not just jump straight to pegging, but use a little bit of fingers, use a bit of a rimjob. Get familiarized with each other's anatomy. Understand what pleasures your partner derives anally before you do anything more up there, because when you're using a strap-on, you're using a toy, you don't have that sensation going on there. You want to understand the anatomy that you are pleasuring. You want to be able to show your partner that they can kind of, you know, learn about this.

I also recommend the one who is going to be receiving the pegging do some solo play with their own fingers, with their own dildos, figure out what size they can comfortably take and train themselves up to that.

Now the panties that I'm wearing right now that I'm going to show off to you: they've got a smaller five-inch long, and then just, I mean, it's a very very small pegging silicone that's also soft enough. I recommend this for beginners as it is about the same as, you know, a finger and a half to two fingers insertion. So certainly keep that in mind.

Now, positioning. Doggy style is easiest when you are looking to have that control, so I also recommend the person who is being pegged for at least the first few times, let them drive it.

As much as it might be a dominant and submissive thing for some, it is also important to understand that you do not have as many sensations as that other person is experiencing, so controlling the depth and the speed is important at first as not to scare them off or, you know, otherwise stop things, as they're just beginning. So allow them to push back on it. Don't just go ham: ease into it, train into it. Anal is something that must be taken carefully and must be practiced appropriately. So, you know, let him lead a little bit at first.

Now I am going to show you what I am wearing. Now this can be found at Naughty Betty's -- I've got the link down below. This is the Scandal pegging panty set. I got the larger. It does come in two different sizes, so the link I've got down below is going to take you to the generalized page where you can pick from both sizes there. And it is a regular C ring, so you can move up in dildos. It comes with the one I'm about to show you, but you can move up in size, which is just really nice.

It's incredibly comfortable. It's also very sexy. So allow me to show you. So this is a very …  it's a smaller sort of one as you can see, and this is a nice like attractive panty, here it's kind of fun. But it's got this small little penetration point, this little dildo here. Right here -- check that out -- this is perfect for beginners play.

So certainly, certainly give this a go. Have some fun with it, and because it's flat it also doesn't hit in, really bump hard I mean. It kind of, kind of suctions a bit there so you can have some fun.

So make sure that you're prepared, make sure that you ease into it, and grab yourself something fun like this. These are really really cute panties, and it gives you a lot of different wiggle room and, you know, a lot of different sizes you can move up with.

So thank you so much for coming and listening in! I hope that this kind of leads you into pegging or at least bringing up the discussion with your partner. It can be incredibly incredibly fun! And don't forget of course your partner has a prostate, so find something that's curved so that you can really ease that pleasure, because that's one of the main points in pegging.

For those who are especially in, you know, straight relationships in general, the idea is that you are pleasuring that piece but so make sure to find something curved in order to do that, because it's gonna be a couple inches in and then kind of curved. Much like how we would find our G-spot, this is basically the male version of like an ace spot there positionally wise.

So learn about the anatomy, learn about the body, and bring that pleasure in for yourself and your partner. Thank you all so much again. I'm Tawney Seren here with Naughty Betty's, and I can't wait to review more with you very soon. Goodbye!