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Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It

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People have been thinking about sex all wrong. Mainstream media, movies, and porn have taught us that sex = penis + vagina, and everything else is just secondary. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don't orgasm this way. We've separated our most reliable route to orgasm - clitoral stimulation - from how we feel we should orgasm - penetration. As a result, we've created a pleasure gap between women and men:

  • 50 percent of 18- to 35-year-old women say they have trouble reaching orgasm with a partner
  • 64 percent of women versus 91 percent of men said they had an orgasm at their last sexual encounter
  • 55 percent of men versus 4 percent of women say they usually reach orgasm during first-time hookup sex

In Becoming Cliterate, psychology professor and human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz exposes the broader cultural problem that's perpetuating this gap and what we can do about it. Pulling together evidence from biology, sociology, linguistics, and sex therapy into one comprehensive, accessible, and prescriptive book, Becoming Cliterate features:

  • Cultural and historical analysis of female orgasm (spoiler: the problem's been going on for ages)
  • An anatomy section (it's all custom under the hood)
  • Proven techniques for cliterate sex (it starts with training the sex organ between your ears)
  • A comprehensive final chapter for men (because you don't have to have a clitoris to be cliterate)

By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. It's time to finally inform women and men on how to have satisfying experiences in bed that benefit both parties.

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Dildos/Vibrators/Anal Toys/Toys with electronics: 

  • Clean your toy with mild soap and warm water, making sure to get into every seam.
  • Do not fully submerge unless the toy is waterproof
  • For non-waterproof, spot clean with a damp cloth. 
  • Use a spray toy cleaner for non-waterproof toys or to give your toy a quick clean. 

Stroker Sleeves

  • Remove from the outer casing and thoroughly rinsed with warm soapy water after each use
  • If your stroker sleeve feels tacky after cleaning, dry thoroughly then add a small amount of pure cornstarch or Renewal Powder - FOUND HERE

Harnesses/Straps

  • Spot clean with a damp cloth

FOR SPOT CLEANING, USE A DEDICATED TOY CLEANER - FOUND HERE

Always dry completely with a lint-free towel before storing, and keep toys in a clean, dry place away from direct sunlight or dust.

Sex toys come in an astounding array of materials, and we at Betty's want you to know exactly what you are putting in, around, and on your body. That is why we have created this comprehensive Guide to Sex Toy Materials to help you make the best choice for your body.