Beginner’s Guide to Prostate (or P-Spot) Stimulation

At Betty’s we get a lot of questions about how to stimulate the prostate. Not only is prostate stimulation incredibly pleasurable, it is a great way to become familiar with this important part of your anatomy. It has often been compared to the female G-spot and has earned the name the P-spot for its sensitivity and ability to heighten orgasm.

To learn more about the health benefits of prostate stimulation, you can read our article Can Prostate Play Keep the Doctor Away but today we are going to focus on how to stimulate this incredibly sensitive bundle of nerves.

Where is the prostate?

The prostate is a gland that sits between the bladder and penis. It’s about the size of a walnut and swells up when you are aroused. Because it is inside the body, you can’t touch it directly.

How do I prep for prostate exploration?

It’s not a bad idea to try an anal douche before you start. Making sure your (or your partner’s) finger nails are trimmed is also important because the tissues in and around the anus are fragile and need to be handled with care. It is crucial to make sure you have a great lubricant on hand as well. The rectum doesn’t self-lubricate so lots of good quality lubricant is a must. If you’re still a bit uneasy about putting fingers “up there,” some folks prefer to sheath their fingers in a condom or latex glove to decrease the “ick” factor.

What position is best for prostate stimulation?

Find a position that is comfortable for you but still gives access to your behind. Hands and knees works great with a partner or scooting right to the edge of a chair with your partner on the ground between your knees. You can also try laying on your back with pillows between your hips and your legs apart, feet planted on the bed.

How to find the prostate

There are two methods. Through the rectum (anally) or through the perineum (the taint).

If you’re nervous, start with external exploration. You (or your partner) can massage your perineum (taint) gently increasing pressure. You’re working through layers of muscle, so it may take some pressure before you get a pleasurable feeling. The nerve endings on the perineum are connected to the nerve endings on the prostate, so if fingers aren’t enough, try using the knuckle of a bent finger for more blunt pressure. Every body is different so give it time and patience.

Internally, the prostate is about 2-3 inches inside the rectum towards the front of the body. It is a rounded surface about the size of a walnut. Here are some basic rules to follow

Start slow, with some massage of the butt cheeks, along the crack and circle the anus with lubricant.
Relax and allow arousal to build. That will swell the prostate, making it easier to find.
Gently insert a well lubricated finger into the rectum when you’re ready and try the “come hither” motion gently searching for that rounded surface.

Once you think you’re on the right track, here is a wonderful infographic describing the sensations leading up to a prostate orgasm.